It has been A LONG TIME since I have been on here

Hello there,

It has been a long while since I have been on this forum. I have been going to the pregnancy forum. I miss coming here.

I have gained 17 pounds which 13 of those has only been since September. I lost my baby due to an ectopic pregnancy...I think I am ok with it now though. But I can't help but wonder if that has had anything to do with it. Eating for emotional comfort.

I am back becuase I need your help. I cannot get back on track. I have tried and each day I try I fail. The more I tell myself I need to do this or that the worse I get.

I can eat ALOT!!!!! I am 2 years and 3 months out. I also eat until I am so full I am miserable, so in so many words I have gone back to my old ways. I am pretty sure I have streched my pouch out. 

Is there anything out there I have not thought of doing? I have tried the 5 day pouch test and failed then I have just tried to be good and take in my protein and limit my intake of carbs. I even go to a psyc.....I have tried other things such as pills to take my appitie away but the more I think about it the more I eat.

Does anyone have any words of wisdom????

SHerri,
I am so sorry you are having a difficult time getting back on track and having to deal with other issues. I tend to beat myself up if I eat something I shouldn't or too much. I found for me, I just take one day at a time and one meal at a time. Getting back on track sounds so overwhelming, so when I start to fall off, I just take it slowly one day at a time. This way, I don't spend all my time feeling guilty, helpless, failure etc. Just look at it as one day at a time- one meal at a time. I think I am a lot like you- the more I tell myself to do something I do the opposite. I think it's the rebel in us or something. That's why the one day at a time  tactic seems to work best for me. Also, walking has been my saving grace. Walk, walk, walk. I feel like I can eat a lot at 17 months out, but I increased my veggie intake and now my body craves veggies which is a good thing.
I wouldn't take pills. I would just try to stick to the basics we all learned at the beginning of our journies. Veggies, Veggies and protein. Knowing you may eating for emotional comfort is a good first step in being aware of our bodies which I am sure a lot of us have learned to listen too over the years of our weightloss journeys. If you feel like you have to eat, eat veggies. For me, I can still get fill the void i feel if I eat simple veggies. I even eat sunflower seeds whIch isn't the best for me, but damn better then candy or cookies. Hang in there. I am going to go eat now. I feel very hungry from me just writing about food- that's how bad I get... 

awe thank you. I will just take it one day at a time and one meal at a time.....I have not tried that yet. Thanks again.

Yea, it seems weird and kind of stupid but that's how I do it. If i look at the BIG picture I seem to struggle and loose focus on the meal at hand. It seems sooooooo overwhelming and a struggle that seems unreachable if I tackle any challenge "the BIG picture" way. I hate being overwhelmed and feeling like I can't do something. I tend to give up easily when it comes to things that seem overwhelming. I think it's the laziness in me. That's why I have learned to focus on my issue day by day. I hate beating myself up so this is the way I have learned to deal with it. Blogging has helped me a lot too. I never kept a journal before, but it has really helped me in a lot of ways. I look back at me even a year ago and see progress which keeps me motivated.

Sending you good luck hugs and love.

That makes total since. I will start to keep a journal as well.

Welcome Back Sherri,
This is this first step you needed to take to find your way back. Reaching out for help is usually very hard for people, as they do not want to admit to anyone that they failed, but admitting it to yourself is they first and BEST step.
Do you go to support groups?
If I can be of any help, PLEASE just holler!!!! You can PM me or I will give you my e-mail address.
I do not know the town you typed in as your home, but if it is not too far, maybe meeting will help.
Hang in there and take a couple DEEP BREATHS and put one foot in front of the other!
Sending you a BIG HUGGGGGGGGGG

Sweeny

Hello there, I am here in san diego. I live in serra mesa. I just got a email from becky, maybe we all can get together for a cup of coffee. I have been to 2 support groups and the second one I should have stuck with...I found reasons not to like it but I think it was just excuses. my email address here at work is [email protected] you can em back here if you like. I did not get your message until this morning for some reason I can't pull my account up at home. Thank you so much for the support....it makes me feel like I have a chance of getting back on track, and it is nice to be able to meet people here in san diego......no one understands us like we do. Even though they may try. Until next time......


Sherri

Got any old pictures of yourself before surgery.  Take a good long look at it, there is your reality.  Do you want to look like that again?  Probably not, there is some motivation for ya. 

Good Luck, and get you butt in gear! 

Diane

Thank you Diane....I will put one up here at work.....I will continue to look at it! Thanks again

Sherri, I am so very sorry for your loss. Please get whatever help you need to recover from this.

Larra